FIXED
Here, just in case you want to make your dictionary a little bigger, are four new words for stubborn. "Taurus", "Leo", "Scorpio" and "Aquarius".
These are what astrologers call the Fixed signs. All four of them have the capacity to dig in their heels and wait for what they want... no matter how long it takes. Their memories are as long as their hearts are passionate. They are, between them, the zodiac's most unashamedly sexiest signs.
What? Even the Aquarians, who are allegedly just walking computers? Yup. Especially them. They may dwell in the realm of the mind but they think, a lot, about the pleasures of the body. And this is one area where thought alone most definitely does not satisfy them.
And as for the other three... well, I'm sorry but this space is too small to waste in a description of the obvious. Besides which, this is a website for all the family. One word is all we need bother with. And that word is 'appetite'. As in voracious, relentless and insatiable.
You disagree? Well maybe that's because you happen to know one who is currently on a fast. Sometimes, ravenous people get past the point of hunger. Once they do, they can abstain for ages. Especially if they happen to be born under one of the fixed, unyielding sign. Sooner or later though, the desire to get physical will resurface... with a vengeance. But in their time, not anyone else's.
And here endeth the first lesson about how to win the heart of one of these people. You give them time. Lots of it. Months if need be. Years if you really care. And you also give them that time if you want the relationship to last. You think of the long term. You make it abundantly clear that you mean business - and you prove it, by offering your trust. You don't use words - for words are cheap, as every Taurean, Leo, Scorpio and Aquarian knows.
You don't make dramatic gestures. Indeed, you keep drama to a minimum. For even if they appear to thrive on it, they secretly find it threatening. What they want is stability, plain and simple. For while some people consider continuity to be just a little boring, these deeply loyal people crave it like a drug. And rightly so, for they deserve it.
MUTABLE
Roll up, roll up. The show is about to start.
The Circus of Mutable Miracles presents the incredible juggling Geminis. There is nothing on earth that they cannot throw... and catch.
Don't miss the great Piscean Escapologists. No matter how you try to tie them up or pin them down, they will wriggle free in moments.
Hurry, ladies and gentlemen, to see the fearless Sagittarians, leaping bravely from the flying trapeze.
Plus, of course, our amazing team of Virgo high wire walkers.
All four belong to an ancient astrological category known as 'the mutable signs.' All four, different though they may be in many ways, share a love of challenge... and change. It has to be difficult or they don't want to do it. It must be different or they'd really rather not bother. That goes for all aspects of life... but especially for the way they behave in relationships.
They are looking for tricks that are hard to learn. They hate to feel that they know all there is to know about anything or anyone. And, they hate arguments. Yes, even the Geminis. Debates, they love. Heated discussions too. But conflict? No thank you. For all four of these signs, life is just too short to be wasted in a test of strength. It's far more fun to co-operate. Which also explains why mutable signs find it hard to be alone for long.
They don't necessarily have to be in partnership. Indeed, most find the notion of conventional marriage rather intimidating. To make it attractive, it needs to involve someone who doesn't make them feel too needed or hemmed in.
Thus, if you want a mutable person to fall for you, you should never let them know that you have fallen for them. And, if you want to stay with a Gemini, a Virgo, a Sagittarian or a Piscean for life... you should focus on your own love of life, not of them. Put fun first. Be light, be nimble and above all, be adaptable.
That applies especially in the department that some might coyly call 'horizontal and nocturnal'. Don't ever let it be just either of these two things. Be adventurous and spontaneous (but still, somewhat sensitive) in your choice of time and place. And don't ever let your love life fall into a routine. And remember, the way to awaken their heart (plus most other parts of their anatomy) is through their sense of humour.
YOU FIXED, YOUR PARTNER MUTABLE
You and your partner come from different planets.
That's not necessarily a bad thing. There's something rather wonderful about the way your loved one often transports you to another world.
There is though, a constant debate about which world is 'home'. You see your world as the 'real world''... yet you just can't make your loved one live in it. You are sharing your life with someone who is forever away with the fairies. You've got yourself a butterfly - or a bird of paradise. Lovely and pleasing though this is, you find all that floating and fluttering infuriating. You want to say "come on, let's be practical. Let's think about the future." Yet you are dealing with someone who makes everything up as they go along. Can't plan, hates to wait. That's quite a high price to pay for a sensational sex life.
So, you have a choice. Resign yourself to a life in which you are forever having to play the grown-up. Or loosen yourself up, a lot. It's one of the two. What you can't do is keep complaining about all that's not quite right. Or rather, you can. But it's not good for you. In PART TWO, we'll find out more about how to overcome this little problem.
YOU MUTABLE, YOUR PARTNER FIXED
Your trouble is, you can't resist a challenge. Your partner CAN. All too easily. Your partner loves nothing more than to resist every challenge that ever crops up.
Nobody, but nobody, challenges your loved one and gets away with it. Apart, of course, from you. Some might describe the ensuing conflict as 'dynamic tension'. That's probably what you think it is. There's something quite thrilling about teasing, seducing or pushing someone past the point where they usually say 'enough is enough'.
When the object of the exercise is sensual pleasure, that's perfect. It probably explains why your poor, long suffering loved one keeps coming back for more. Yet when the same principle is applied to daily life, it makes every conversation a struggle; a tussle for power or a wrestling match for control.
As I say, you can't resist a challenge. It amuses you to keep exploring new options. Yet your partner prefers familiarity. Routine. consistency. Yawn.
How can someone be so lovely and yet so unadventurous? This is by no means a hopeless relationship. But it needs more than hope if it is to thrive. In PART TWO, when we look at the love computer once more, we will see what else it may need - and how to supply it.
EARTH
The element of sensuality and strength.
Has the earth moved for you recently? If your lover is a Taurean, a Virgo or a Capricorn, it ought to have done. These are the zodiac's earth signs and they all have the ability to smoulder and erupt, like a volcano.
You may not think this to look at them though. They usually pretend to be sensible, organised and efficient. Then, when the moment is right, they suddenly change. Think, for instance, of the businesswoman who takes off her glasses and lets down her hair... or the mild mannered reporter who turns out to wear underpants over a jump suit.
Earth sign people are masters (and mistresses) of disguise. They have to be because, if you and I knew what they were really thinking... we'd blush with embarrassment. Or, to put it another way, Earth sign people are very, very down to earth. Don't waste their time with subtle suggestions. Don't slowly try to get them in the mood. They are not open to persuasion or coercion. They are either ready for everything - or they are interested in nothing. And when the moment of enthusiasm arrives, they will let you in a clear, emphatic way.
They will reach out and touch you, softly stroke you and show you precisely what they have in mind. For these are the zodiac's sensualists. They have enormous, hearty appetites which they like to fulfil slowly, course by course by course. In their own time. When they are ready. Without pressure. But with plenty of strong, unquestioning support from their partner.
So, is there nothing you can ever do to convince an Earth sign person that love is on the menu when they say they don't feel hungry?
Hmmm. Maybe there is one thing. Offer them a massage. A proper, thorough chance to loosen the tension in their neck, shoulders and spine. Then... you can see what happens next.
WATER
The element of emotion and sensitivity
Would you like to know a secret? OK. First though, you must promise never to abuse the information that you are about to be given. It is sensitive, crucial and, in the wrong hands, dangerous. I am trusting you now, with a simple, foolproof way to make any Cancerian, Scorpio or Piscean fall hopelessly in love with you.
All you have to do... is tell them a secret. Show them that you trust them. Demonstrate your honesty, your sincerity... plus your need for their help and protection. But mean it. Or you will soon meet the wrath of water.
If you think that water is not an angry element, perhaps you have never found yourself out at sea, in the middle of a storm. Or seen a wave, hurling itself wildly at a cliff.
The water signs all share this capacity to produce dramatic, tidal torrents. When they are sad, they won't just shed a little pool of tears. They will cry you a river. When they are excited, they don't just well up with passion. They break an inner dam and flood the world for miles around.
These creatures of emotion live for their feelings. They wring every last drop of meaning and experience out of the sponge of the heart. Despite what this seems to imply though, they don't HAVE to be in love to enjoy an act of love. They can separate the physical from the mental with surprising ease if they choose. But when they do so, they always feel incomplete. They yearn to be totally overwhelmed, by all their senses, at one glorious moment.
If you're willing to offer them that opportunity, safely, trustingly, with all loyalty and commitment... you'll have a relationship that's never anything less than stunningly 'intense' in the nicest possible sense.
EARTH WITH WATER
Put earth with water and what do you get? Mud. Or maybe clay, if you are lucky. It doesn't sound very exciting does it? Unless, of course, you happen to be a biologist... or a potter.
Biologists travel all over the world in search of little mud samples. Mud may not look interesting to the untrained eye but it is gloriously rich in minerals and rich too, in molecular life. You'd be amazed by what you can extract from it.
Clay too, has a deceptive appearance. Until it is shaped into something, it seems to have no value. Once it has been through a process or two, it becomes precious... even priceless.
Never underestimate the magic that a water sign person can create, in combination with an earth sign person. This relationship, in symbolic terms, is the most important and the most potentially productive of all.
We're talking 'fertility' here... in every sense of the word. We're talking about a supremely creative combination - that can bring forth almost anything you could ever wish to produce. We're also talking about two elements which, once merged, are tremendously difficult to separate. So it is just as well that neither of you are ever likely to want to go your separate ways.
Here, just in case you want to make your dictionary a little bigger, are four new words for stubborn. "Taurus", "Leo", "Scorpio" and "Aquarius".
These are what astrologers call the Fixed signs. All four of them have the capacity to dig in their heels and wait for what they want... no matter how long it takes. Their memories are as long as their hearts are passionate. They are, between them, the zodiac's most unashamedly sexiest signs.
What? Even the Aquarians, who are allegedly just walking computers? Yup. Especially them. They may dwell in the realm of the mind but they think, a lot, about the pleasures of the body. And this is one area where thought alone most definitely does not satisfy them.
And as for the other three... well, I'm sorry but this space is too small to waste in a description of the obvious. Besides which, this is a website for all the family. One word is all we need bother with. And that word is 'appetite'. As in voracious, relentless and insatiable.
You disagree? Well maybe that's because you happen to know one who is currently on a fast. Sometimes, ravenous people get past the point of hunger. Once they do, they can abstain for ages. Especially if they happen to be born under one of the fixed, unyielding sign. Sooner or later though, the desire to get physical will resurface... with a vengeance. But in their time, not anyone else's.
And here endeth the first lesson about how to win the heart of one of these people. You give them time. Lots of it. Months if need be. Years if you really care. And you also give them that time if you want the relationship to last. You think of the long term. You make it abundantly clear that you mean business - and you prove it, by offering your trust. You don't use words - for words are cheap, as every Taurean, Leo, Scorpio and Aquarian knows.
You don't make dramatic gestures. Indeed, you keep drama to a minimum. For even if they appear to thrive on it, they secretly find it threatening. What they want is stability, plain and simple. For while some people consider continuity to be just a little boring, these deeply loyal people crave it like a drug. And rightly so, for they deserve it.
MUTABLE
Roll up, roll up. The show is about to start.
The Circus of Mutable Miracles presents the incredible juggling Geminis. There is nothing on earth that they cannot throw... and catch.
Don't miss the great Piscean Escapologists. No matter how you try to tie them up or pin them down, they will wriggle free in moments.
Hurry, ladies and gentlemen, to see the fearless Sagittarians, leaping bravely from the flying trapeze.
Plus, of course, our amazing team of Virgo high wire walkers.
All four belong to an ancient astrological category known as 'the mutable signs.' All four, different though they may be in many ways, share a love of challenge... and change. It has to be difficult or they don't want to do it. It must be different or they'd really rather not bother. That goes for all aspects of life... but especially for the way they behave in relationships.
They are looking for tricks that are hard to learn. They hate to feel that they know all there is to know about anything or anyone. And, they hate arguments. Yes, even the Geminis. Debates, they love. Heated discussions too. But conflict? No thank you. For all four of these signs, life is just too short to be wasted in a test of strength. It's far more fun to co-operate. Which also explains why mutable signs find it hard to be alone for long.
They don't necessarily have to be in partnership. Indeed, most find the notion of conventional marriage rather intimidating. To make it attractive, it needs to involve someone who doesn't make them feel too needed or hemmed in.
Thus, if you want a mutable person to fall for you, you should never let them know that you have fallen for them. And, if you want to stay with a Gemini, a Virgo, a Sagittarian or a Piscean for life... you should focus on your own love of life, not of them. Put fun first. Be light, be nimble and above all, be adaptable.
That applies especially in the department that some might coyly call 'horizontal and nocturnal'. Don't ever let it be just either of these two things. Be adventurous and spontaneous (but still, somewhat sensitive) in your choice of time and place. And don't ever let your love life fall into a routine. And remember, the way to awaken their heart (plus most other parts of their anatomy) is through their sense of humour.
YOU FIXED, YOUR PARTNER MUTABLE
You and your partner come from different planets.
That's not necessarily a bad thing. There's something rather wonderful about the way your loved one often transports you to another world.
There is though, a constant debate about which world is 'home'. You see your world as the 'real world''... yet you just can't make your loved one live in it. You are sharing your life with someone who is forever away with the fairies. You've got yourself a butterfly - or a bird of paradise. Lovely and pleasing though this is, you find all that floating and fluttering infuriating. You want to say "come on, let's be practical. Let's think about the future." Yet you are dealing with someone who makes everything up as they go along. Can't plan, hates to wait. That's quite a high price to pay for a sensational sex life.
So, you have a choice. Resign yourself to a life in which you are forever having to play the grown-up. Or loosen yourself up, a lot. It's one of the two. What you can't do is keep complaining about all that's not quite right. Or rather, you can. But it's not good for you. In PART TWO, we'll find out more about how to overcome this little problem.
YOU MUTABLE, YOUR PARTNER FIXED
Your trouble is, you can't resist a challenge. Your partner CAN. All too easily. Your partner loves nothing more than to resist every challenge that ever crops up.
Nobody, but nobody, challenges your loved one and gets away with it. Apart, of course, from you. Some might describe the ensuing conflict as 'dynamic tension'. That's probably what you think it is. There's something quite thrilling about teasing, seducing or pushing someone past the point where they usually say 'enough is enough'.
When the object of the exercise is sensual pleasure, that's perfect. It probably explains why your poor, long suffering loved one keeps coming back for more. Yet when the same principle is applied to daily life, it makes every conversation a struggle; a tussle for power or a wrestling match for control.
As I say, you can't resist a challenge. It amuses you to keep exploring new options. Yet your partner prefers familiarity. Routine. consistency. Yawn.
How can someone be so lovely and yet so unadventurous? This is by no means a hopeless relationship. But it needs more than hope if it is to thrive. In PART TWO, when we look at the love computer once more, we will see what else it may need - and how to supply it.
EARTH
The element of sensuality and strength.
Has the earth moved for you recently? If your lover is a Taurean, a Virgo or a Capricorn, it ought to have done. These are the zodiac's earth signs and they all have the ability to smoulder and erupt, like a volcano.
You may not think this to look at them though. They usually pretend to be sensible, organised and efficient. Then, when the moment is right, they suddenly change. Think, for instance, of the businesswoman who takes off her glasses and lets down her hair... or the mild mannered reporter who turns out to wear underpants over a jump suit.
Earth sign people are masters (and mistresses) of disguise. They have to be because, if you and I knew what they were really thinking... we'd blush with embarrassment. Or, to put it another way, Earth sign people are very, very down to earth. Don't waste their time with subtle suggestions. Don't slowly try to get them in the mood. They are not open to persuasion or coercion. They are either ready for everything - or they are interested in nothing. And when the moment of enthusiasm arrives, they will let you in a clear, emphatic way.
They will reach out and touch you, softly stroke you and show you precisely what they have in mind. For these are the zodiac's sensualists. They have enormous, hearty appetites which they like to fulfil slowly, course by course by course. In their own time. When they are ready. Without pressure. But with plenty of strong, unquestioning support from their partner.
So, is there nothing you can ever do to convince an Earth sign person that love is on the menu when they say they don't feel hungry?
Hmmm. Maybe there is one thing. Offer them a massage. A proper, thorough chance to loosen the tension in their neck, shoulders and spine. Then... you can see what happens next.
WATER
The element of emotion and sensitivity
Would you like to know a secret? OK. First though, you must promise never to abuse the information that you are about to be given. It is sensitive, crucial and, in the wrong hands, dangerous. I am trusting you now, with a simple, foolproof way to make any Cancerian, Scorpio or Piscean fall hopelessly in love with you.
All you have to do... is tell them a secret. Show them that you trust them. Demonstrate your honesty, your sincerity... plus your need for their help and protection. But mean it. Or you will soon meet the wrath of water.
If you think that water is not an angry element, perhaps you have never found yourself out at sea, in the middle of a storm. Or seen a wave, hurling itself wildly at a cliff.
The water signs all share this capacity to produce dramatic, tidal torrents. When they are sad, they won't just shed a little pool of tears. They will cry you a river. When they are excited, they don't just well up with passion. They break an inner dam and flood the world for miles around.
These creatures of emotion live for their feelings. They wring every last drop of meaning and experience out of the sponge of the heart. Despite what this seems to imply though, they don't HAVE to be in love to enjoy an act of love. They can separate the physical from the mental with surprising ease if they choose. But when they do so, they always feel incomplete. They yearn to be totally overwhelmed, by all their senses, at one glorious moment.
If you're willing to offer them that opportunity, safely, trustingly, with all loyalty and commitment... you'll have a relationship that's never anything less than stunningly 'intense' in the nicest possible sense.
EARTH WITH WATER
Put earth with water and what do you get? Mud. Or maybe clay, if you are lucky. It doesn't sound very exciting does it? Unless, of course, you happen to be a biologist... or a potter.
Biologists travel all over the world in search of little mud samples. Mud may not look interesting to the untrained eye but it is gloriously rich in minerals and rich too, in molecular life. You'd be amazed by what you can extract from it.
Clay too, has a deceptive appearance. Until it is shaped into something, it seems to have no value. Once it has been through a process or two, it becomes precious... even priceless.
Never underestimate the magic that a water sign person can create, in combination with an earth sign person. This relationship, in symbolic terms, is the most important and the most potentially productive of all.
We're talking 'fertility' here... in every sense of the word. We're talking about a supremely creative combination - that can bring forth almost anything you could ever wish to produce. We're also talking about two elements which, once merged, are tremendously difficult to separate. So it is just as well that neither of you are ever likely to want to go your separate ways.
